Once again it comes to this, a sense of relief that I am not alone in remembering my old friend on the sad anniversary of the day he took his life. I will not forget his like soon, but still expect to face that fact as a lone remnant of the before-time. This is demonstrably ridiculous, but there you have it.
I will be attending both the cemetery and the Port Credit pier later today. Aiming to be at his resting place by about 2:30 to 3:00 in the afternoon and ending up at the place he died at the time he died, that being 4:10 PM. I have only recently come to realize that I will be doing so on this day each and every year until I myself shuffle it off. I know that should our fates have been reversed he would have done no less for me. So it goes.
I would be most grateful to meet with your good self, or anyone else who knew him, on either spot. Let us share our memories and shout his name into the dark.
Perchance we might raise a glass to him together, thereafter?
Post by ShowbizPRgirl on Sept 13, 2007 10:50:47 GMT -5
I live in Ottawa, so I won't be going. But I did light a candle in memory of him today. It's still hard, you know...thinking about that horrible day/weekend, and the demons that must've been tearing Ian/Mal up inside.
I was alone at the cemetery, staring down at his still unmarked grave. At the pier I met up with Gaz. We looked for anyone else who seemed to be there for the same reason but found no one. He and I had a fine time, reminiscing and chatting about the man, the myth and the legend. The best one can possibly hope for on the second anniversary of a good friend’s suicide. I still miss him. I loved him like a brother and I will remember him until the day I die. He did a terrible thing that brought him to his death and I don’t bloody care. But finally, after two years, an untold numbers of wakes and two funerals? It is getting easier.
Now whereas I couldn’t ask for the company of a finer man with whom to recall our dear friend, I have to wonder if anyone else turned up. Perhaps we missed each other. I fully understand that people with day jobs might not find it easy to get away in the afternoon. Still, given the numerous mentions about a memorial made here and in other public forums, I rather expected our number to be greater than two. After a few drinks I went back to the spot where he died and shouted in the best Old Vic tradition “IS THERE ANYONE HERE FOR MALCOLM?!” No one answered me, although I think I frightened some water fowl. Maybe I should wave a Punisher flag next year.
Just to be clear, the spot is on the east side of the Port Credit River, about 50 meters along the pier from the Snug Harbour restaurant. I can say this with a fair degree of certainty, having spoken to some of the staff at the restaurant who were working that day. It’s where I’ll be at 4:10 PM on September 13th of next year. Hope to see some of you there as well.
Last Edit: Sept 14, 2007 23:17:08 GMT -5 by cymric
It was one of those days where nthing went right. I gave up trying to get there at 5:10pm while stuck on the QEW. It used to be the traffic coming in from Hamilton wasn't that bad but i see now that if I want to join anyone that day i'm going to have to book it off. I thought there'd be others from this and other boards assembling so i'm surprised there wasn't anyone else. maybe they hit the same traffic.